Grief & Infant Loss

This is part of my story. A sacred space of mine.

I firmly believe that God will use the source of our greatest pain as one of our greatest ministries in our lives if we let Him; this that for me. I hope that in sharing this part of my story, this sacred space of mine, this pain of mine, that someone will find help, comfort, and steps towards healing here.

If you find yourself here because infant loss has touched your life or the life of someone you know, first, I extend my sincerest sympathies and give you the biggest of hugs, and, second, I hope you will find this page to help guide you or someone you love through the grieving process.

In 2010, our first child, our little girl, entered heaven’s gates after a short 36 days with us. Her name is Hailey. (You can read the details of her/my/our story that I wrote after her death and shared on the website Be Not Afraid here.) My heart and life have forever changed because of Hailey, and I seek to support those mothers who find themselves a part of the bereaved community.

Two weeks after my daughter died my father passed away from cancer, the day before my 25th birthday.

Please scroll down to find my writings on infant loss and grief as well as a compilation of resources I have found to be helpful.

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Click the links below to read my blog posts in the following categories:

Infant Loss


On Coming Alive


Gifts for the Bereaved:

Bottle of Tears  – This company’s inspiration is Psalm 56:8, and their company tagline reads: “Mailing hope to those who need it most as a reminder that they are not forgotten and are deeply loved.” How beautiful, right? They sell gorgeous vintage bottles, jewelry, prints, and more–and are very reasonably priced.

Laurelbox – “Designed to nourish a woman’s heart after loss.” Beautiful, thoughtful bereavement gifts and items; however, they are a bit on the expensive side.

Project Sweet Peas /  Forever My Sweet Pea – Bereavement / memory boxes and gift items for families who have lost a baby. The items range from free to a minimal cost; runs on donations. Send inquires to


Remembrance photography for infant loss:



Online communities and resources for infant loss:

Forever My Sweet Pea

Still Standing Magazine


Additional resources for general grief:

Grief Share

On Coming Alive


Books on Infant Loss and General Grief:

I’ll Hold You in Heaven by Jack Hayford

Click here to learn more or buy on Amazon–> I’ll Hold You in Heaven

Grieving the Child I Never Knew by Kathe Wunnenber

Click here to learn more or buy on Amazon–> Grieving the Child I Never Knew: A Devotional for Comfort in the Loss of Your Unborn or Newly Born Child

I Will Carry You by Angie Smith

Click here to buy on Amazon–> I Will Carry You: The Sacred Dance of Grief and Joy

A Grief Observed by C. S. Lewis

Click here to learn more or buy on Amazon–> A Grief Observed

Tear Soup (wonderful illustrated story for families and children on general grief)

Click here to learn more or buy on Amazon–> Tear Soup: A Recipe for Healing After Loss

Facets of Grief (a creative workbook) by Franchesca Cox

Hope When It Hurts by Kristen Wetherell & Sarah Walton – Not grief specific, but relevant for the general topic of pain and suffering

I’m always adding more resources as I come upon them so please check back!

Do you have a resource you found helpful? Please share!